He has a cultural love for God and the Church, but not a real active relationship with either. He has no ill feelings towards either.
But his life is such that he is not in a state of grace. He lives with his divorced girlfriend.
It's not that he is "lukewarm" about Our Lord and the Church as it is he is picking and choosing to live by what he wants.
She is a lovely woman and we like her.
But all in all, this relationship is disordered. They put their relationship before God.
Beyond praying for them, I simply dont know what to do anymore.