I am separated from my husband as our marriage is invalid. The situation is very complex and for various reasons we have not filed for divorce as of yet. My husband is not Catholic and is currently agnostic. He is only willing to convalidate the marriage if relationship between the two of us improves – but it has not in over a year. Sometimes he wants to stay married and other times he says he feels like we should get a divorce. I feel the same way. Advice to me from priests, prayer warriors, and marriage counselors (not to mention family and friends) about what to do in this situation has conflicted. Advice to him has been to seek divorce, but he has not yet.
However, what Jesus wants me to do is most important – sometimes it seems like He is asking me to end the marriage, most of the times it seems that He is asking me to wait, but what I’m waiting for is unclear. I was praying and hoping for a miracle many times over the past year, but the reality seems to be that there is not a lot of love and self-giving left in the relationship and I’m wondering if the Lord is saying that it may be better for us to part. I want to do God’s will even if it hard for me and doesn’t match up to what I thought my vocation was and what my dreams and goals were for my life. Please pray for my continued discernment in this situation and also for the gift of faith for my husband. Thank you all.