Since the divorce my son has had improper guidance. His father stays in the South and won’t help him. We stay in the NE. He lives with my mother and father, I live alone.
My mother got him away from substance abuse but now she doesn’t know how to guide him. She is quite old and not really competent. My father had a stroke and his not really competent either.
My son is, like his father, a character. He also has a very sweet side. But he is immature and not ready to take on independent living even though he is an adult.
Now, he has an assault charge and a restraining order against him for getting involved with the wrong girl. He also has a DUI charge. He has also totaled two cars in the last month, the second time it was a snow accident.
His father doesn’t help him. I have no resources and have been so ill and out of control myself that he was left abandoned for most of a year. Dealing with my mother and father is frustrating. I can understand that they are concerned over the cost of helping him as well as the interference with their old age. But they are very controlling toward me to and the situation is impossible for both me and my son.
I almost think it would be better for him to go to jail where he could get some guidance. Maybe he would meet a priest he could talk to. Maybe he would get a social worker and some help with getting into independent housing and getting a job.
No idea what to do for him.
Please help him with your prayers. His hearing on the assault charge is tomorrow. I won’t even be there. My mother has taken total control and gives me disinformation.