Hi, I am in the process of planning my wedding, which is now less than three months away. Although I am close with another priest, I asked my parish priest to preside. I am struggling because I am very devoted to and interested in the liturgy, and had hoped to be very involved in planning the wedding liturgy, as the USCCB recommends.
I had read through the full liturgy, with all the options for prayers and the nuptial blessing, and selected, with my fiance, those that we found most beautiful, but when we met with the priest we were told that there were no options - there were only the prayers the Church gave and we would have no role in selecting any of them. I am deeply saddened by this and unhappy whenever I think of the conversation.
I have (nearly) decided to talk to the priest again, and express how saddened I am that I cannot have a role in selecting the prayers and blessing. But how do I approach this charitably? What do I say?
Thank you especially to anyone who has been in a similar situation. God Bless.