I will pray for you in this particularly difficult time.
Please do all of the following for both your sake and the sakes of your children - and even for your husband (whom you still owe your love - even if it must be tough love).
Call a lawyer. Find out your rights. Consider a restraining order. Do this immediately, do not delay. Make sure your lawyer has 5+ years of experience in family law. You can call your local bar association to get names of attorneys who qualify.
If you feel you or the children are in actual danger, don’t wait - call the police.
Call your priest and schedule weekly visits for the next month. You will need spiritual counseling through all of this. I promise you. Don’t neglect this.
If you can afford it, hire a reputable professional CATHOLIC counsellor. Consider this site: exceptionalmarriages.com/ Again, you and your children will need help. Call them even if you don’t think you can afford it - maybe they can help anyway.
Above all, schedule time to pray before the Blessed Sacrament. Bring your children with you, particularly your teen children. Jesus will give you the grace to get through this.
When you pray before the Blessed Sacrament, I also recommend you pray earnestly for your husband, and your children should do likewise for their father. It’s possible that he is in greater danger than you if he is an unrepentant sinner.
- Frequent the sacraments - daily mass if you can make it, and weekly confession. You will need God’s graces.
My prayers and well wishes. God Bless.