Prayers urgently needed


#1

As some of you know, I am a single mom of a 7 year old boy. His dad is very involved in my son’s life despite the problems his dad and I have had, which were getting better, btw. I thought that last night, his dad was even understanding were I was coming from regarding stepmom. Now, here’s why I am asking for prayers urgently.

I received a phone call at about 4pm(EST) from my son’s father saying that he just came home from the local mental health emergency room after going there last night after trying to overdose on medication. I am trying very hard to stay calm in front of my son, but truthfully, I am about to pass out. I was hysterical at first, but since my son is now home, I can’t be that way.

Please pray for him, my son, my son’s half sister, his wife and me.


#2

Prayers going up for you…

Did he talk to you about why he did this?


#3

[quote=Princess_Abby]Prayers going up for you…

Did he talk to you about why he did this?
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No, he didn’t. And I can’t get in touch with him. I’m afraid that he is going to try to blame me.

I am so scared.


#4

You are in my prayers, and your ex-husband is as well.

My Jesus come and calm your heart and give you strength during this difficult time.


#5

[quote=Momofone]No, he didn’t. And I can’t get in touch with him. I’m afraid that he is going to try to blame me.

I am so scared.
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Blame you for his actions?

Because you had a discussion about his wife’s behavior at your son’s birthday party? (I’m guessing from what you allude to.)

First, please remind yourself that adults are responsible for their actions. We don’t “make” anyone feel good or bad; they choose the feeling based on their experience and subsequently choose the action to accompany the feeling.

If your husband was indeed feeling overwhelmed by the discussion he had with you, was taking pills to the point of overdosing his only option?

No.

He could have phoned a family member or friend, clergy, a hotline or even called you and explained that he was feeling uncomfortable about the previous conversation. There are a number of healthy activities which relieve stress and anxiety and are NOT toxic, destructive or attention-seeking.

Please do not blame yourself and if in future conversations he attempts to place the blame upon you, remind him that he is the one who swallowed the pills.

Am I understanding why you are scared? If I’m wrong, please tell us why you feel that way. :frowning:


#6

My prayers are with you and your family, and I feel for you…

:gopray2: Tell us if we can help you in any way.


#7

I am afraid that he will blame me because that is his pattern, but that is not the only reason I am scared. I am scared mostly because I don’t know how to handle this. I can’t tell my son what happened, I haven’t heard from dad, and I have no idea why this happened. I care about my son’s dad, even though we have had some serious problems.

My son won’t be able to go to his dad’s this weekend because of this suicide attempt. My son’s counselor said this and I am not thrilled with the idea of my son being with someone who just tried to kill himself. So that is upsetting, too.


#8

praying right now for all of you :gopray:


#9

Momofone,

I’m so sorry for the pain you’re in right now and the pain your son is likely to feel for not having the opportunity to visit with his father this weekend. Please know that you and all yours are in my prayers as you go through this challenge.

Do you have the opportunity to do something fun with your son this weekend? Perhaps you could invite a friend and you could go to the park and kick around a soccer ball and have a picnic lunch. See what you can do to have some fun time together.

Kids are pretty resilient. Just let him know that “plans changed, and dad’s not available to get together this weekend, but it doesn’t change the fact that dad still loves him tons.” That’s the basic message he’ll need to hear to get through this in the best possible form.

Take care of yourself and God Bless.

CARose


#10

This fellow obviously has some issues inside of him that he needs to deal with. Apparently, he knows just what to say or do to upset you and deflect the responsibility of his actions. I have a friend, who is a Catholic counselor. She handles matters such as this. I suggest you get good counseling before this goes on much further.

Praying for you.


#11

Having been in your shoes myself and walked that mile, I will pray.


#12

Thanks for all the prayers. He called me early this morning and gave me some answers, thank God. Apparently the medication he was on was not helping him. So he took more. He then proceeded to drink beer on top of that. From what the doctor said, when he took more of the med than he should have, it lead him to not care what he was doing. So it went from trying to calm down to a questionable suicide attempt. From what he told me, he was not breathing, had a very low heart rate, and was in a coma! He also did not try to blame me, but told me that it was “a whole bunch of things at once”.

I am so angry at him right now!!! I guess that is normal, though. I am very glad that I chose to go to work this morning because it was very distracting. But when I had some downtime, I couldn’t get the vision of him lying there, not breathing out of my head. How dare he? I have been telling him for years that he needed counseling and then he does this!!!


#13

[quote=plato3]This fellow obviously has some issues inside of him that he needs to deal with. Apparently, he knows just what to say or do to upset you and deflect the responsibility of his actions. I have a friend, who is a Catholic counselor. She handles matters such as this. I suggest you get good counseling before this goes on much further.

Praying for you.
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I am in counseling and in a 12 step group for co-dependency. I also took classes in education regarding domestic violence. All very helpful, but what helped the most was prayer. God is good!


#14

momofone, it sounds as though you have surrounded yourself with good resources and with the most important one, God. I will keep you, your son, his father and stepmom in my prayers.


#15

I just talked to him again and gave him holy what-for!:smiley: I let him know, through my tears that I cared about him, but I was so angry. I made it clear that he hurt and scared alot of people. Heck, I STILL feel like I am going to pass out and have no appetite, so I can only imagine how his wife and his dad’s GF feel, as they were there with him, not knowing the extent to which he had gone, and then his wife found him passed out.

He also let me know that he tried to bs the psychiatrist, but that he thinks that she saw right through it. :tsktsk:

Times like this I wish I could roundhouse or front-snap kick some sense into him!:frowning:


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