[quote=Loren 1of6]The original question still stands: why would a Christian want to suggest that by praying for our enemies we are “heaping coals of fire on their heads” instead of asking God to grant graces to all involved in the altercation?
I will share something with you that may help you understand.
Once there was a woman who told a bunch of lies about me. (It was actually more than just lies, there was a confrontation with her and then her husband who confronted me with “the horrible” thing I had done to her son, all of which were lies.) The person who she told them to, did not know either of us, and honestly did not know who to believe. (It was in kids sports, couldn’t just walk away since I had agreed to help the team and did not want to yank my kid who was blessfully unaware of what was happening)
This woman was very vindictive and went out of her way to talk about me and make fun of me in any way. I can’t really express the depth of persecustion from this woman here. But there was a tremendous amount of stress and tears over her actions, words and just plain HATE the eminated from her. (I used to refer to her as the demon possessed woman to my husband. It became a joke of sorts, but to this day I truly believe she very well may have been just an evil and/or possessed person.)
One day, I was reading the Bible in Psalms. In it, it David praying for God to smite his enemies and for David to eventually be victorious. This is how I felt. *It is basically a feeling of not hoping someone will go to hell, but if they don’t repent, you want to see them thrown in the pit? *By praying for them, by asking God to have others see the truth, we can heal ourselves of the anger that comes from their persecutions.
Even as I write this, I look at it and say “wow, how could anyone want to watch someone get thrown in the pit of hell?” But the truth is, that is exactly how I felt. And it was through reading Psalms that I found comfort in praying for my enemies knowing that either they would come to realize the wrong they had done, or that God would take care of things. I could let it go.
Thankfully, I have never had something of this level of actual hatred leveled against me since, and I sometimes have a hard time truly even understanding why I could let myself get knotted up over this, but then recall the daily persecutions and hatred poured out on me by this woman and go “Oh yeah”
I hope this can help.
If you still can’t understand, read some of the Psalms. I think they are very good at helping us take our anger and hand it over to God.