I need some advice. My husband is a non-Catholic, but he’s been coming to Mass with me for about a year and a half now and he’s thinking seriously about entering RCIA in the fall. There’s just one problem—I’m having trouble getting him to see eye-to-eye with me on proper etiquette before Mass starts.
For example, he usually has the Internet up on his iPhone before Mass starts (although he puts it away as soon as the bells ring and doesn’t touch it after that). And at last night’s Assumption Mass, he arrived at the church before I did and brought a comic book in with him. o_O When I arrived, I asked him as gently as I could to put it away, but the conversation didn’t go well—to put it mildly. We had an argument about it after Mass, with me trying to explain that it was inappropriate and may have been distracting to people around us; and him replying that reading silently was better than the people who have full-blown conversations pre-Mass, and that as long as he wasn’t reading during the Mass, he didn’t see what the big deal was.
Was it wrong of me to bring this up? Are non-Catholics even bound to etiquette rules while in church? (He also doesn’t genuflect, kneel, do the sign of the cross, etc., but I know that will come with time.) Until he’s in RCIA, should I just enjoy the fact that he’s attending with me, and not worry so much about the particulars? I don’t want to harp on him and end up inadvertently pushing him away from the Church while he’s still in the inquiry phase.
(Also, please pray for him. And for me.)