[quote="terri_fortner, post:1, topic:201465"]
I have 4 children- the oldest is 8 the youngest just turned 1. I just took a home test and it was positive, I am pregnant again (despite exclusive breastfeeding, and not ever having a menstrual cycle, and almost never having relations with my spouse for fear of getting pregnant again).
My mom was already trying to make me stop- she even joked, repeatedly, with the doctor at my last delivery that she should just go ahead and tie my tubes and I wouldn't even notice. :mad: She is constantly making me feel bad about having children, every time I get pregnant she is upset and sad. Yes I am sad too for the things I will miss out on- I already miss out on so much because of the babies, but I have to combat her negativity all the time. My in-laws aren't as bad, but its there. They do not ever spend time with the kids, and instead spend all their free time with their daughter's only child.
I know my husband will be happy, and worried and stressed (nothing new there) my sister- the only other Catholic in the family- will be over joyed and excited she just loves babies, but she had her tubes tied before she converted. I have not yet been confirmed, but I know what I know, and I can't un-know it.
IDK what I am looking for here, I guess I just need someone to be happy for us, and maybe some advice on how to handle the onslaught of **** I am heading into.
Congratulations! A new life is always something to be celebrated. Don't let your family get to you. If they have a negative comment, tell them to keep it to themselves, because you are celebrating the new life and they are bringing you down. Life is a beautiful. Being co-creators with God is an incredible thing. I will pray for you, the new life growing inside of you and your husband. I will also pray for that the hearts of your family members will be softened and they will see the joy that new life brings to your family.
Being a man, I can understand the worry and stress that your husband will probably express. I think its completely natural. Guys, especially those who want to protect and provide for their family, worry about how they are going to provide. Even if you already have everything you want and need. I know that is true for me. Let you husband have some room to be worried for a bit and he will probably work through it and it will make him stronger.
I know there is a thought about there that if you a breastfeeding you cannot get pregnant, but as you know, that is not true. I would recommend Natural Family Planning (NFP). My wife and I do the Creighton model. You can call your local Catholic Church and they will be able to provide you with someone who teaches classes. The Church does not say that you and your husband have to abstain from relations with your husband. NFP is a completely natural way of working with you body the way God created it to avoid a pregnancy. The Church teaches that if you have a good reason to avoid a pregnancy that you can use NFP to avoid one. There are also a lot of health benefits from using NFP. You should also read Theology of the Body, by Christoper West.