Ok, I definitely understand your situation now. If your wife married you just to receive resident status in this country, and you did not know about it, then I believe the Tribunal will see that as a reasonable cause.
However, it is not correct that St. Augustine of Hippo was married. His mother tried to get him to marry to calm his sexual desire. As you probably know, he had several mistresses, and an illegitimate child with one of them.
His mother, St. Monica, tried to convince him to give up his mistress and get married. Augustine agreed, but his fiancee was too young, and it was delayed for two years, and they eventually decided to end the relationship. St. Augustine became dismayed and searched for answers, eventually leading him to study under Bishop Ambrose and Plato at the same time. He learned that Bishop Ambrose had the answers to the questions he had, and as a result, he converted to Christianity.
After his conversion, Augustine went back to his native Africa in 387, where he was ordained a priest in 391 and consecrated bishop of Hippo in 396. It was not his intention to become a priest. He was visiting the town of Hippo, was in church hearing a sermon, and the bishop, without warning, said, “This Church is in need of more priests, and I believe that the ordination of Augustine would be to the glory of God.” Willing hands dragged Augustine forward, and the bishop together with his council of priests laid hands on Augustine and ordained him to the priesthood. (The experience may have colored Augustine’s perception of such questions as, “Does a man come to God because he has chosen to do so, or because God has chosen him, and drawn him to Himself?”) A few years later, when the Bishop of Hippo died, Augustine was chosen to succeed him.
I suppose that you know that if you decide that an annulment is in the future, and you are a deacon already, you cannot remarry unless you have children. Even then, you have to receive permission.
Please don’t view me as rude or thinking you are dumb. If I came off that way, I apologize. I think it’s wonderful that you want to be a deacon, and that you want to serve the Church. I also think it is great that you are learning about the faith and trying to make the best decisions. I will gladly offer up prayers for your discernment and your family. May the Lord give you His love and peace. God bless you! :crossrc: