Once again, requesting to become part of a religious house is nothing at all like applying for a job.
A religious community is a family, and anyone seeking admittance is presumably seeking admittance for life. Can you not see the difference between that and applying for a job or living in a dorm or barracks with someone?
And I cannot for the life of me imagine anyone wanting to be part of a religious community where they felt they might be threatened, coerced, or any of the other negative things you keep imagining. If a person felt that way, they’d never want to be part of the community to begin with!
As to your comparison to a cult… Well, I guess you could say there are similarities between a cult and religious life, or even joining the military for that matter. One is told what to wear, what to eat, what to do, and so on, day in and day out. And in the case of religious life (I’ve never been in the military so I don’t know) there are even limitations with regard to contact with one’s family and friends.
On the other hand, in religious life, all the doors lock from the inside. One is truly free to leave whenever one chooses. And unlike the military, if a person does just walk out of a seminary or monastery, the police don’t hunt them down and press charges.