Hello Again Everyone,
I am in dilemma over the last 3 days, and would appreciate some advise from you all. Well I was previously located in Europe, where there were very traditional churches, very supportive priests, where I was also encouraged me to do frequent confessions (every 2 weeks, once I committed mortal sin).
1st Problem: And Now I am no longer located there, but in another country, which is very un-traditionational, a place where almost almost nobody confesses, and also a place where people uphold confession as a really bad thing. I have often visited parishes here, and when I ask for the confessional, people often pull back, stare at me harshly and then murmur the word “co-n-fess-io-n” as if it is some really bad thing> and they then follow by telling me, “You don’t need to confess, you could just pray by yourself and god will forgive you!” This “no confession thing” is apparently an epidemic in my new location. The Archbishop here has even posted signs around which “urge catholics in the country to return to the sacrament of reconcialition”. So basically people here take confession for granted, and associate extremely negative behaviour to it.
Ok that aside, I am used to being more “traditional” and as a result I stick to my regular confession (every two weeks, as long as I am in a state of sin).
2nd Problem: There are a shortage of priests in the country, as a result finding one for a confession could sometimes be challenging. When I now moved here I used to confess to one priest at the nearest parish: but he basically told me that I’m scrupulous and don’t come back.
Now let me say that I am not scrupulous, it is just that I’m going through massive changes and realisations in my life, and I’m becoming aware of things and behaviours that I never knew were sinful before, so as a result I often need to confess, and the first priest told me don’t come back.
So I then moved to another parish, which has a wonderful and very supportive priest who thinks that my regular confessions are just “normal” and not scrupulous. Unfortunately he is often unavalable as he has a busy schedule.
Since he is often unavailable I occasionally confess to a priest at a local monastery, although I try my best to stick to confessing with the supportive priest at my new parish, unfortunately that isn’t always possible.
Now the situation is, once again the priest at my parish has left the country for a month. So I now have 2 Options, 1) Confess to the priest at the monastery, OR 2) Wait 1 month for my parish priest to come back and confess to him.
NOW I am considering confessing to the priest at the monastery, as I really want to go for communion this sunday, Unfortunately the priest at the monastery does not seem very pleased with me confessing to him, as he is of the opinion that “Good catholics, shouldn’t confess every month”. The last time I saw him he told me this, and this happened 17 days ago.
So, this is my dilemma, do I go to the priest who is available and thinks that I “Shouldn’t confess every month”? OR Do I wait and Entire Month for my Parish priest to come back before confessing to him?
I’m a bit more than confused, as I am not used to priests behaving like this. I would really appreciate some advise. Thank you.