I’m a 16-year-old girl and I have never dated a boy. I’m still attracted to men though (not that that’s wrong, I guess)
The thing is, I kind of want to get married, be one with another, have a child/children and all that good stuff, but at the same time I don’t. It’s not the responsibilities as a mother or the pain of childbirth (although the latter I’m a bit scared of, but hey, a mom’s gotta be tough anyway), but rather what I’ll have to give up.
I read this one comment on an article that basically said “if you are a married woman and open to life you should be having a baby every couple of years and NOT be working. It is impossible for a woman to be married, have children, and work because the children will be lonely and devoid of parental love.” (I’d also like to vent out my irritation on the fact that the same person said “women, if you’re not going back home, at least quit sports” I mean really). My mom worked when I was young and I NEVER felt devoid of her love. She was always there for me, she taught me the faith, she comforted me when I was sad, etc.
Does a married woman HAVE to have as much children as she can? I know a lot of faithful Catholic families have like six or seven kids or even more than that, but is it wrong for a couple to say, stop at 3? I know NFP should only be used if there is a good reason to space out children, but what if you just don’t plan on having more?
Also, *should *she be a stay-at-home mom? I myself have plans for a career in psychology, and I fear that if I get married I’ll have to just give that up.
Are these just stupid, selfish reasons to not want to be married? I have no problem with a big family and being a stay-at-home mom.
The problem is when I’m told those are mandatory.