hey everyone, im posting on the board for the first time for the sole purpose of asking you all this question…im really lost
ive abstained from sex all my life, in order to save it for marriage…ive always wanted to have a big catholic family and a wife who i can love completely
recently i met the perfect woman who i think i have fallen in love with…shes compassionate, smart, beautiful, and Catholic.
however, i have found out (from her) that in her past relationships she has had sex numerous times witha few different people.
i am completely crushed…i dont want to judge her because i am hardly perfect but i feel betrayed…i feel like if we ever got married i wouldnt be able to think aboutanything during sex but her other partners
she says she wishes she had never had sex and that she wants to start over, but other than that doesnt seem overly concerned.
i dont know what to do. my questions are
- how do i get over it?
- how do i get her to understand how much it hurts me?
- how do i have a healthy marriage/sex life once we are past this (e.g. confession etc.)
thanks so much for your help. i dont know if this is the way things are usually done but like i said, im really, really hurting right now.