m posting a thread here because Im really confused now and I hope someone can give me some advices. I
m a woman over 30 years who has been searching for a catholic husband for many years now. I live in a very atheistic country so I feel its almost impossible to find a catholic husband in my country. I go regulary to mass but I havn
t met any man there. So the latest years I have been searching on datingsites after catholic men. I found a man from the south of Europe who wrote he was a really good catholic. I asked him if he was looking for something serious and he told me if he met a good person, " why not? "and that he was free. We wrote for some months and after a while I went and visited him in his place. Its a holy place with many pilgrims so I wanted to go there anyway and after years of struggling finding a good man I really hadn
t any expectations to this man. But when we met everything was perfect and so nice. He took me to a really nice reaturant the first evening and to a new one the day after. But the second evening when we went to his house he made some moves on me which I responded with telling him I was was not this kind of girl. He told me he respected that. I went to my hotel little dissapointed this evening thinking " one more of these guys" which I have met so many times before. I actually expected more from a guy who comes from a really catholic family and live in this kind of place. I thought he wouldnt meet me anymore after I rejected him but the day after he wanted us to go for a trip which I told him was ok. He called me the day after to plan our trip but first he wanted us to go to the church together. I told him I already been to the morning mass, so he could pick me up later, but he kept on asking me to please join him, so I said " ok, no problem, I don`t mind going twice:) In the church he was acting like a Saint: praying, swithing candles and was really consentrated. Later he guided me around in the church and museum beside for hours telling me the story about the Saint of the place and we were discussing catholicism. When we were in the church I really felt something special for this man.
After I came home we kept on writing e - mails. He told me I was a very pretty and good girl and he wrote me many sweet nice messages and told me he was attracted to me. I felt the connetion was so good and after a couple of weeks I told him what I felt: that I liked him and that I wanted us to know each other better. He knows that I have considered moving to his country anyway and he knows how much I love his country. I was thinking of seeing each other in the weekends in the first place to make it possible to know him better. But then he answered me he felt it was not an good idea because of the distance ( it`s 2 hours flight ).
I got really hurt because of this. I feel that if he wasn
t really interested in me he scholdnt take me to the mass and to the church. The rest i could “accept”…
We still had some contact because he kept on logging into Skype all the time…but after a while I found out he had many pornographic/halfnaked women as friends on his facebook. Then it was enough for me! I told him I have seen this and that I don
t think its fair of him to call himself a catholic who practices his religion and at the same time subscribe to profiles of pornographic/halfnaked women…I told him it
s best that we dont have anymore contact because I was looking for a serious catholic man and for love.
s been a couple of months now and my friend told me he has removed all the "pornographic" women from his site. The problem is that I cant forget this man. I still think about him and pray for him to be a good man and when my friend told me this I feel he has done some progress in the right direction…
I would be very grateful to hear some opinions from people here at the CAF. What do you think about this guy told me he was attracted to me and the fact that he insisted to go with me to the mass? What am I suppose to think? I feel really confused. When we were toghether I have never been so happy in my life, especially in the church.It was a very special moment for me that I have never felt before…I really felt it was a sign from God, but later it turned out to maybe not be that afterall… He also told me so many nice things and that I was such a good and beautiful person ( so obviously he was attracted to me, he told me that later also when I came back home). As I wrote in the beginning here he told me that he was open to be serious if he found a good person. Later he told me I was this very nice person…still he didn`t want to know me better.
I appreciate some opinions.
God bless you!