Ever since we got married, my husband has put his sisters and his friends first. Everything in his life comes first; I’m the last person he thinks of.
We’ve had many arguments because of this, and a few nights ago we had an argument because he doesn’t realize that his older sister tries to do everything in her power to make me feel less and very uncomfortable.
See, the latest thing started when we were to go camping as a family. His 3 sisters, his brother in law, his nephews and nice, and the 2 of us. It was supposed to be ONLY family. Some of you know he’s a JW, and I’ve had many issues w/him because of it. Well, I think most of you know how JWs are, and they are always attacking the CC, and my older SIL does this in front of me. I’ve never said anything to her, out of respect for my husband, but she constantly does this and I’m getting tired of it. So, going back to the camping… I have a SIL who is Catholic (let’s call her Alma for the sake of not confusing people) and one who is just returning to the CC (Ana). Her bday was a few wks ago, and the Alma sent her a cake for her bday and asked the older sister (Silvia) to get together and eat it w/her. So we went (my JW husband and me) to have some bday cake. There, Ana asked Silvia, "when are you guys going camping?” I was surprised and said “Aren’t you going?” Ana told me she couldn’t so I figured it was because of work, so I asked if it was and she said, “No, the JWs are going so I can’t go” (She’s been shunned by the JWs because she “apostatized”).
So, I was left with my mouth open. My DH hadn’t told me it was going to be w/the people from his religion, the same people who constantly try to convert me, the people who cannot leave me alone because I am Catholic, the same people who are wishing DH divorces me so he can marry a “nice” JW girl. I couldn’t believe DH hadn’t said anything to me, and because I was so surprised I blurted out, “fine, if they are going, I’m not. If DH wants to go, he is more than welcome to, but I’m staying home.” He knew this would make me want to stay at home, and he didn’t care to tell me.
Silvia did this so Ana wouldn’t go (she acts this way so Ana comes back to the JWs), and she knows also that I wouldn’t want to go. I heard from Ana’s mouth that Silvia wants DH to divorce me and that she was going to do all in her power so DH will NEVER leave the JWs.
So, here I am, looking as the evil wife because I do not want to go camping w/the people who are always attacking me and my beliefs. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that, is there?
Then, last night, Alejandra (the other JW sister) came to visit from LA and when we got to Silvia’s house, as always I say hi nicely and politely. Well, when I said hi and bye she rolled her eyes and sighed giving me attitude. When we were sitting in the living room talking, when I would speak, Silvia would turn the other way and pretend nobody was talking. Then DH got up to say hi to Alejandra’s little kid, and Silvia looked over to Alejandra’s wrist. She had a bracelet that resembles a Catholic bracelet (one that has little wooden squares w/Saints’ pictures on them), but hers was just of soccer teams, but Silvia grabbed it and said, “Ugh, you look like you’re wearing one of those ridiculous Saint bracelets, you shouldn’t wear that because people will think you’re turning Catholic”.
When we left, I asked DH why Silvia was so much against me. I didn’t even say it in a mean way, but he exploded as if I had said the most horrible thing in the world. I tried explaining what she did, but he denies anything happened because he didn’t see any of it. So, on the drive back home we were completely quiet. He went to bed, and I went to the family room. I took a blanket and a pillow and turned the tv on, and he comes running out the door saying not to expect him to come and ask me to go to bed with him and to not go back to bed and start crying because he didn’t want me making him feel bad for me crying.
(Sorry I had to do this in 2 parts, I wrote too much)