This has been weighing on my mind a lot. I asked the question in the “Ask the Apologist” forum, but they have been ignoring my questions, so I want to ask it here. I need to know what I should do.
One of my family members calls herself Catholic, but there has been a lot of non-Catholic things that she has done, and she continues to receive Holy Communion, and serves as an EMHC, like I do. This distresses me because this is the Lord that she is receiving, and I think she is receiving unworthily. Growing up, Confession was not a requirement in her family, so she doesn’t go.
Just a taste of what has happened:
She told me once that about 20 years ago, she had her “aura” read, and her palm read. I know this is against Catholic beliefs. It says in the Catechism and the Bible that it is.
She voted for Obama and voted “NO” on Amendment 2 (which, if it was changed, would allow same-sex marriage. I don’t think she agrees with gay marriage, but she believed that heterosexual couples living together, unmarried, should receive the same benefits as a married couple, which makes NO sense!).
There have been other things, but these are the two largest things I can think of. When I asked my mom if she ever said anything to her (since they are related), she said it was not a good idea to get involved in a religious argument with the family member because it would never end. How can I stand by and watch her destroy her relationship with God because of this blatant ignorance of Catholic Canon Law? Aren’t I guilty if I stand by and say nothing?
If a believer does something wrong, go, confront him when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have won back that believer. But if he does not listen, take one or two others with you so that every accusation may be verified by two or three witnesses. If he ignores these witnesses, tell it to the community of believers. If he also ignores the community, deal with him as you would a heathen or a tax collector.–Matthew 18:15-17**
I just don’t know what to say because she is very domineering. She frightens me because of her personality and the fact that everything I say will be scrutinized. But I want to move past that. I feel I owe it to her, as a family member and a sister in Christ, to tell her the truth. What would you say??