I need a good Catholic and objective feedback for my situation. First of all a little bit about me, I’m 23 years old, live with my parents, I graduated from College almost two years ago and have a wonderful job. I’m also a Youth Minister at my Church, lector, choir member, altar server, and anything that they call me up for. I’ve been recently dating a wonderful young Catholic man who even asked my parents for permission so we could start courting. (By the way, I have only dated one guy in my entire life). He and I have been very chaste and therefore give chastity talks together. We are both very active in our ministry as well and we’re discerning marriage at this time. The problem here are my parents: at first they liked my boyfriend (somewhat), but since he and I live 2 hours apart, when we’re together we spend quite a bit of time together. My parents didn’t like that and told me that it looked like I was chasing him around, so I have to lie to them when I’m going to visit him at the school he teaches or something, because if they know, they’ll think I’m desperate. Keep in mind that my boyfriend has NEVER disrespected my parents, in fact, after he asked them for their blessing to court me, they barely say hi to him.
This past weekend he came and surprised me during one of my Youth Minister Halloween Parties and I came home at 10:30 pm. My parents thought that was too late, so they gave me an ultimatum and made me choose between them and my boyfriend–because they say they don’t like him. They don’t say any reasons though. I chose my boyfriend, because I’m not doing anything immoral and they’ve always treated me as a child. I moved out and have been living with friends since then (because of the hurricane, there are no hotels or apartments available). I receive phone calls from my family yelling at me and insulting me and my reputation. They say that I’m the one who is wrong because I moved out and I’m the one “paying” for everything that my boyfriend does or has. It just happened to be that I got a free cell phone with a new account and he didn’t have one, so we decided to have a joint account and he would pay for his bill and I would pay for mine. They looked through my statements when I moved out and yell at me because I “pay” for EVERYTHING, which is not true at all. I don’t know what to do. I already found an apartment by the end of this month, but in my family, it is a very big deal moving out. I just can’t stand that they don’t know they kind of daughter they have and that they have this horrible image of me that no one else has. I’m desperate, please let me know what you think.