[quote="Gordon_Sims, post:5, topic:237899"]
I was a cheapskate and didn't go to my prom. My son skipped his as well. However, even back when I was in HS, plenty of people got hotel rooms for the night. Most of the people I spoke had not only cleared this with their parents, but some of the parents actually dropped the kids off and picked them up in the morning. And this was a Catholic HS.
Once my daughters get to be that age, I have no problem with them going to Prom & After-Prom as long as my wife and/or I are chaperons. I know that's not a fail-safe (we have friends whose first child was conceived between Prom & After-Prom), but it would give me at least some level of comfort.
It is exactly that that is making me cringe about prom this year. My group won't be doing that, but others will.
[quote="SalesianSDB, post:6, topic:237899"]
My school has banned after parties and renting of hotel rooms. If they find out, they will release the wrath of God upon you.
That being said, why can't two people go out to a dance without sex afterwards? Really, by its nature, prom isn't supposed to be about the after parties or sex. It's supposed to be a formal event for your class. In my school, our only two formal dances are winter formal and senior prom. Our homecoming is the most casual thing I've ever been to.
For me, prom is next week, and I'm excited. I'm taking one of my best friends and I'm planning on having the best time ever--without sex! Yes, it's possible for teenage boys not to jump to sex. Who would have thought? In fact, my prom date is atheist and is a strong believer in waiting until marriage.
If you want to change the whole "scene" as your describing it, it isn't by banning prom, but by changing attitudes of people. Prom is supposed to be about fun. Clean fun.
I think it's possible, you just have to work for it.
Good post and good point. Prom doesn't have to be bad, but often times it ends up that way, whether it was planned like it or not. It is supposed to be a formal event but that's not what it's viewed as in a lot of cases. It's viewed as a time to "go big or go home". I think you know what I mean.
Like I said though, prom revs the engines of both parties involved, leaving them at the end of the night wanting more. It puts them in a bad spot I think. A fine example of this is the garter the girl wears for part of the night then the boy wears it (on his arm) for another part of the night. It works that way at my school. Garters are for weddings, not high school proms :(
I may very well just be a curmudgeon. I have been accused of it before...