For the record, I am dating to find a long-term relationship that may end in marriage. I don’t have a clock or a checklist. Just general ideas of what I know I like. I want to have it all - Catholic and compatible!
Dating only Catholic men will limit you. But, if you meet someone under secular circumstances and he asks you on a date, how do you determine if he is Catholic?
I would ask him. Maybe not on the spot, but first dates are about learning about each other, and my faith is a big part of who I am. His response will tell me volumes.
I don’t consider her as marriage material…but, apparently we both like to get wet on hot days and also ride horses. If I follow some of the advice, I should decline to go riding. -UNLESS- This is not what is referred to as dating??
Everyone has different definitions of what “dating” is. If you’re both cool with taking things outing/date by outing/date it’s not that much of a problem.
Expectations do not get discussed until after around the third date.
When I said expectations, I meant…when horse rider asks you to join her, ask…is this a date. Sometimes a guy and girl can have wildly different ideas about what they’re doing, when all they have to do is be clear from the get-go…“Would you like to go out with me? Would you like to go on a date? Beach on Saturday? It’s a date!” etc. And then if it goes well…“Do you eventually want exclusivity? What do you hope to get out of dating?” etc. Sounds to me like you date to have a good time.
I have to say that it is much easier to end dating that did not involve sex. Others who jump into sex on the first date and find differences on the third date have a lot more trouble.
Oh yeah. I follow The Rule. No sex on any date 'til I’m married. Hence wanting to date Catholics who are aware of The Rule and hopefully follow it themselves.
I think the main issue is that many posters have years of experience on us, different formation growing up, and are truly good-hearted in wanting to pre-empt pain or frustration that they themselves may have felt just dating around.