My boyfriend (Christian, non Catholic) and I (practicing Catholic) are hoping to get married this August. We’d like to get married in the church I grew up in, which is an ethnic Catholic Church. The thing is, I don’t have any relationship with the priests there (the nature of our church is that we get a new pastor every few years and it’s kind of a cultural difference for me as I’m pretty Americanized), and besides I would really like to find a priest whom we can converse with easily, so basically an English speaking priest. Unforunately, the priests with whom I’ve actually known have moved away. There is one priest in particular I would like to ask (but I’ve never talked to him), but he assists at another parish, in my neighborhood, and he also is a professor at a local university. Just wondering if it’s proper to ask this priest if he would officiate our wedding, and if so, is there a proper way to ask? The only time I really see him is when he celebrates Mass, and he is hanging around afterwards and talking to the parishioners. Do I ask him in person? Email him? Should I try to set up an appointment with him? And at this point, I’m really not sure if we would have our wedding within the Mass or just do a wedding ceremony. And just to have my bases covered, we have been dicerning marriage for several years now.
Is it out of the ordinary to ask a priest other than your parish priest to celebrate/officate a wedding? How about those that are not parish priests but are of an order?
Thanks and peace.