I’m 19, and I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for almost two years now. It’s been a rough road for both of us, but things are starting to clear up. We’ve both been thinking lately how it’d be like if we get married (although it’s still a long way off).
I’m a Catholic and he’s a Protestant, and we already see so many problems if we get married. The big one is- if we do have a child, whose religion will he/she follow? Both my boyfriend and I already know that the likelihood of him/her becoming a Protestant will be 95%. It’s because my boyfriend has an entire family and relatives who are Protestants, compared to my family of four who are Catholics. The child won’t really be able to choose for himself/herself. And I know for a fact that I wouldn’t convert, and so is he.
Sometimes I can’t help but wonder if we do get married, how would our marriage ceremony be like? Will it be Protestant or Catholic? I’ve always dreamed of getting married in a Catholic church, but my boyfriend would probably have other thoughts. And even if we get married, do we go to church separately every Sunday? Or do we go together – one week to my church, and the next week to his church, and vice versa? But that means I wouldn’t be going to church every single week, which would be breaking the third commandment, “Remember thou keep holy the Sabbath Day”!
I’ve asked many people, and most said around the same thing as my mom: Dating is fine, but don’t get too serious and get married because it probably wouldn’t work out. The thing is, we went through a lot to be together, and we’re definitely serious about each other, but the question is, will marriage between us work out?
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