Protestant view on Masturbation/oral sex


#1

Why do Catholic’s believe masturbation and male oral sex is wrong, but Protestants hold the opposite view? Is there scripture that point to these things being sin? When did the Church first write on these things being sin? When I spoke about “spilling seed” being against God’s wishes, one Protestant stated that God was just angry at Onan for “not fulfilling his promises” and not simply spilling his seed. I’m just having a discussion with Protestants and would like more context as to why the Church believes these things are wrong. Thank you!


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#2

“Protestants” is a very vague category. Most Protestants that I know believe both of those things are wrong, other that those who hold to Modernist beliefs.


#3

Can’t believe I’m responding to this thread topic - but…I don’t know that Protestants do say it’s okay. We honestly never heard any teaching or discussion in my 60 years as a Baptist.


#4

It was a “Christian Mommies” group on a pregnancy/parenting support site on the internet. I couldn’t believe how many said oral sex and masturbation was ok. Maybe non denoms believe its ok?


#5

Not all do. But of those that do, either they view it as “Jesus changed that.” Not based on a scripture quote, but because He lifted a lot of OT rules. I’ve also read that some debate the translation of some words and argue that when St. Paul condemned homosexual sexual relations, he was actually only condemning the pederastry in ancient Greece, not relations between adult men. Both arguments I mentioned ignore context of other scripture and Christian tradition. And needless to say, these reasons are not exhaustive.


#6

Ya, no. Non-denominationals (I’m not going to say all) are taught the same thing.

I really don’t think that it’s a protestant vs Catholic thing. It’s personal and depends how modern that persons views are. I know many a Catholic who believe the same thing.


#7

Do non Catholic Christians not believe that sex is only for procreation and unitive purposes. Well that makes Masturbation wrong… Oral sex is at best disordered and at most a grave matter. is it not?


#8

Many if not most don’t.

Many Protestant churches believe that the act of masturbation is in itself not sinful. BUT masturbation needs images to help the process. Using these images is the same as committing adultery.


#9

Why is oral sex disordered?


#10

it cannot have procreation in mind, can it?


#11

Mastubation, manual or oral stimulation of the genitals to climax in place of intercourse, is wrong for males and females. See the sixth commandment.

Protestants hold many views, some align with Catholic moral teaching some do not. Some Protestants hold these things to be sinful, some do not.

When one separates from the sure norm of faith-- the Magesterium-- then one can easily arrive at erroneous conclusions about any number of things.

I would encourage you to read the Catechism regarding the sixth commandment, which gives a full picture of sexual sin against God gleaned from Scripture and Tradition, divine revelation.

God’s law, the sixth commandment, goes back to Moses. Many sexual sins are enumerated in Scripture. But, when we look with the light of Christ on all sexual sins against chastity and marriage, we see a holistic view of the proper and disordered uses of our sexual faculties.

You aren’t going to win that argument, especially if you are not already well versed in Church teaching on human sexuality. Proof texting is never a good idea.

I can suggest the book The Bible and Birth Control by Charles Provan (he is a Protestant).


#12

That isn’t what I’ve heard from Protestants, but I’ve discussed this issues with admittedly few people.


#13

It doesn’t impede procreation if performed on the woman, or on the man as foreplay


#14

I think if he means as other than foreplay…like that is where it ends. I think “oral stimulation” is the term used here for “foreplay” and most think it is licit, as long as it is a warm up for the guy at least.


#15

is it not putting sexual pleasure over the procreative and unitive purpose?


#16

You act like it’s either or. If a man performs oral sex on his wife, she achieves climax, and then they have intercourse, there’s no issue


#17

not if it is “foreplay”. If it is the “endgame”, at least for men, then it is not ordered toward procreation.


#18

The Church could never teach that oral sex is ok, is it not too tempting to make the act non procreative, even by chance?


#19

There are as many stripes of Protestant belief as there are people.

As a teen in a non-denom group I was taught that masturbation was a gift to help us stay virgins until marriage, that pornography was okay within marriage to spice things up.

I was taught that contraception was part of being a good steward.


#20

The Church doesn’t forbid oral sex in the circumstances I described. I don’t know what to tell you.

Sex between spouses is not required to go straight to vaginal intercourse with no detours. That’s ridiculous.


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