I’m new here and have joined in order to get some clarity on a few things. My boyfriend is a practicing Catholic and I’m a baptised practicing Protestant. We both put Christ at the centre of our lives and so far the difference has caused very few problems.
We’re talking about getting married, but apparently it’s far more complicated than I would have expected. I really want to be married in the church I grew up in (protestant), and he’s happy with that as long as we can get the marriage recognised by the catholic church somehow.
What would be the best way to go about this? I’ve been looking into convalidation, but it seems to be about admitting that you weren’t properly married in the first place, and living celibate until we get it done, even after the protestant wedding ceremony. I’m not completely comfortable with that, for obvious reasons. Would someone mind clarifying exactly what convalidation is and what I would be expected to admit/promise during the ceremony?
Another thing I’ve heard about is to get permission from the church to marry each other. Would that include permission to marry in my protestant church, and a recognition of that ceremony (so we would only need to have one ceremony)?
I’m really confused about all of this and what is required of us by the church. Any help/explanation would be really appreciated!