Psychological addiction to masturbation?


#1

Im in my early twenties trying to give up this habit of mortal sin cold turkey. It has been about a month since my last ejaculation and I am going crazy. All I think about is hell revealed at fatima, by st. faustina, st. john bosco, st teresa etc. to stop me from doing it. Is there a psychological part of this too? I heard the chemicals released in orgasm are like heroin, and it takes months for the body to withdrawl. is this true?


#2

As someone who has been sober from drugs for a year and seven months, I know about addiction. Just not to what you mention.

I’m very skeptical that self-gratification is an “addiction” unless your chronically doing it. I think it’s more a bad habit and lack of self control. Remember-I’m speaking to you as someone who is addicted to a certain substance. When someone does drugs, it causes a prolonged high. I don’t know if what you mention causes a prolonged high, aside from the climax.

Speak to a shrink or a doctor.


#3

Well we know that people can be addicted to sex, so addiction to masturbation is also a possibility.


#4

I know exactly what the OP is going through; I'm still trying to shake off the very same habit. It does very much so become an addiction, and incredibly hard to bury. I'm not sure about the biological psychology behind it, but it is hard to break the mindset and the urge to masturbate. I find breathing the Jesus Prayer to be a good lifeline, in this format...

While breathing in: Lord Jesus Christ
While breathing out: Son of the Living God
While breathing in: Have mercy on me
While breathing out: A sinner.

To borrow advice from a friend of mine: Just watch out for when you're hungry, angry, lonely or tired (H.A.L.T.); those conditions tend to make you more susceptible. There certainly is a psychological aspect to this sort of addiction, but I'm no shrink.


#5

You may want to listen to the following two talks:

alabamacatholicresources.com/Downloads/The_Poison_of_Pornography.mp3

alabamacatholicresources.com/Downloads/Conquering_Lust_by_Father_Kenneth_Dean.mp3

Just download 'em to your PC, iPod/iPad/ MP3 player, etc.


#6

As a long distance runner, I have had physical withdrawal symptoms when I’ve stopped running for a bit, so the body is definitely capable of becoming “addicted” to its own hormones and chemical secretions. As such I don’t want to run afoul with forum rules about giving medical advice.

I would maybe speak to a doctor, or at least a priest. A doctor might give you grief about living virtuously, but be persistent, especially since even by medical standards, masturbation is only “normal” when it doesn’t interfere with your daily life. Clearly here, it seems to be!

Also, masturbation’s sinfulness derives from its nature of isolating one in front of a computer engaged in lustful fantasy. Your brain was built for worship of God and fellowship with REAL people! Speaking to a priest or doctor, at a bare minimum, helps break the cycle of isolation, and reunites you with the fellowship of the Church.


#7

Congratulations on your control!

:thumbsup:

In the early twenties, hormones are pushing you to, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth."

Mental habits (with physical components) will search for ways to either get the habit back or they will transfer to other mental habits with physical components.

For instance, drug addicts in reform, must be very careful to recognize that their mind will push their body toward another addiction - alcohol, sex, swearing, food, gaming, gambling.

You have to decide for yourself what hobby or an activity you can turn to "to avoid the near occassion of sin."

Maybe, it's coming here and talking it out ;) A place to find peace of mind and body.

Something which has helped me, is invisioning the communion of saints. In eternity, I don't want to be seen as unfit to be able to control my sexual emotions around Jesus.

Perhaps for you, you could ask the Virgin Mary or Mary Magdalene for help with your times of trial.


#8

"In all temptations, but particularly in temptations against purity, remember the presence of your guardian angel and of the devil, your accuser, for they both witness all your actions, and will render an account of them to Him who sees and judges all things. If you follow this counsel, how can you, before your accuser, your defender, and your judge, commit a base sin, for which you would blush before the lowest of men?"

The Sinner's Guide by Venerable Louis of Granada - Chapter 32 - Remedies against Lust, Section II.

There are many graces available in the Divine Mercy chaplet.


#9

[quote="runningdude, post:6, topic:213302"]

Also, masturbation's sinfulness derives from its nature of isolating one in front of a computer engaged in lustful fantasy. Your brain was built for worship of God and fellowship with REAL people! Speaking to a priest or doctor, at a bare minimum, helps break the cycle of isolation, and reunites you with the fellowship of the Church.

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I didn't say pornography, although they are basically the same concept.


#10

[quote="JM3, post:8, topic:213302"]
"In all temptations, but particularly in temptations against purity, remember the presence of your guardian angel and of the devil, your accuser, for they both witness all your actions, and will render an account of them to Him who sees and judges all things. If you follow this counsel, how can you, before your accuser, your defender, and your judge, commit a base sin, for which you would blush before the lowest of men?"

The Sinner's Guide by Venerable Louis of Granada - Chapter 32 - Remedies against Lust, Section II.

There are many graces available in the Divine Mercy chaplet.

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This is what I am doing right now, constantly thinking about hell. But at some point I just wish my body would adjust.


#11

[quote="notredame_999, post:10, topic:213302"]
This is what I am doing right now, constantly thinking about hell. But at some point I just wish my body would adjust.

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I have had the same problem -- the bad habit of masturbation, I am 19. I have found that thinking about Hell doesn't help much, for me at least. Think instead on the goodness of the Lord. Think of our Savior's presence in the Holy Eucharist. Think of our Lady. Take advantage of the sacraments frequently. Breaking a habit demands discipline, but breaking a sinful habit also requires grace. Trust in God. Meditate upon the most Sacred Heart of Jesus, pray before a crucifix. These have helped me, so I hope they help you. Pax Vobiscum.


#12

Of course, whatever works, but I’d suggest daily Mass with the Eucharist, receiving in the strength of Jesus (He was / is a man) and knows that you need Him.

Daily Mass in our area is an early Mass and takes about 30 minutes. Sacred Scripture is read, Father gives a short homily and the Eucharist is served.

Father is available for confession if asked.

You may find that the Eucharist will reorient your desires.


#13

There is a CAF group of men dedicated to breaking free and living free of this habit. We have advice archives with many helpful discussions. Feel free to click the link in my sig below.

Praying for us all,
- curl


#14

[quote="ZDHayden, post:11, topic:213302"]
I have had the same problem -- the bad habit of masturbation, I am 19. I have found that thinking about Hell doesn't help much, for me at least. Think instead on the goodness of the Lord. Think of our Savior's presence in the Holy Eucharist. Think of our Lady. Take advantage of the sacraments frequently. Breaking a habit demands discipline, but breaking a sinful habit also requires grace. Trust in God. Meditate upon the most Sacred Heart of Jesus, pray before a crucifix. These have helped me, so I hope they help you. Pax Vobiscum.

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I've read the same thing about smoking, that the warnings about cancer and death jade the smoker into a malaise where he just won't care. Thinking about hell probably has the same effect. One needs to focus on Gods love to break sinfulness.

As a fun fact, in Germany, they put warning that smoking may cause unattractiveness :p


#15

[quote="notredame_999, post:9, topic:213302"]
I didn't say pornography, although they are basically the same concept.

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Oops, they usually go hand and hand (no pun intended). Still, masturbation, even without visual aid, still isolates one from God and fellowship.


#16

[quote="notredame_999, post:10, topic:213302"]
This is what I am doing right now, constantly thinking about hell. But at some point I just wish my body would adjust.

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it takes a while for your body to adjust.. after a few months it gets better but at the beginning the hardest part is getting over the Hump. after about a year it becomes very controllable.

i know it sucks really bad.. staying busy and getting your mind off of it is vital. i know that its a battle that goes on every moment of the day.

don't you hate it when people that have done drugs think that drugs are the only addiction and that something like masturbation cant possibly be an addiction?

that's absurd.. getting over masturbation was 1000 times worse for me than getting over drugs.

hang in there.. the more time that passes the easier it becomes.


#17

I heard that exercise helps this. When you feel the urge, start exercising. Or go for a walk, or watch a movie. rather than just 'praying' about this, you also have to find other things to do in the meantime to help distract you. There are many resources out there for people who have problems with this.


#18

Hmm…comments directed towards me by chance?

I question being “addicted” to self gratification. Many people would agree with me.

From one addict to another (And I’m sure you I could share stories of heartbreak we’ve seen and heard) we should know that the word-addiction-is a loaded term. Let’s be careful when we use it.


#19

[quote="BlueShadow123, post:17, topic:213302"]
I heard that exercise helps this. When you feel the urge, start exercising. Or go for a walk, or watch a movie. rather than just 'praying' about this, you also have to find other things to do in the meantime to help distract you.

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Good advice!

There are many resources out there for people who have problems with this.

One of which is our CAF support group. :) (See the link in my sig.)

Praying for us all,
- curl


#20

[quote="curl, post:19, topic:213302"]
Good advice! One of which is our CAF support group. :) (See the link in my sig.)

Praying for us all,
- curl

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You'd be surprised all the good benifits of exercise. It doesn't only shape your body up, but it protects you against diseases, helps you psychologically, can help rid your body of bad things even bad thoughts. it also boosts your metabolism. Signing up at the gym isn't a bad idea. :)


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