To start with, only comment if you read the article! Last time I posted an a thread to discuss an interesting internet article, a lot of people opined without even reading the thing. If you don’t read it, then you can’t have an opinion.
For those who didn’t read the article I quoted part of it which seems to make up the crux. Also you should really just read the article.
Though society pressures you to forgive the person who wronged you, the truth is that forgiving may be the worst thing you can do. Many religions and therapies focus on forgiving a perpetrator so that the victim can ‘move on.’ The goal is to make sure that the victim does not become fixated on the hurt. This element is critical because if you become completely obsessed with your victimization, you will not be able to function. That is a fact. Fixating freezes you.
However, forgiveness is not something that just happens. Some people find it helpful to release their anger while others find the idea disgusting. I have dealt with my share of parents of murdered children and victims of sex crimes. Though many find a way to move forward in life, forgiveness truly eludes them. This does not make them bad people. This just means that it is not healing for them at this time.
Now I know this article is about mental health rather than theology, but it does raise some questions about the implications involved.