I’m a regular here but my other username is my full name (stupid) and I’m too embarrassed to post this under it. I’ve posted here once before about a similar issue.
This will probably be a little incoherent, but basically, I’m getting married in 5 months, and my fiance and I are having a terribly difficult time staying chaste. We are both Catholic, go to Mass and Confession weekly, and have been getting counsel from our priest regularly.
The first year of our relationship we had no problems in this area… but after a year we started going “too far” and it’s been a struggle ever since. There have been a lot of ups and downs… we’d be good for a while and then we’d mess up and fall into the habit again. We don’t take it lightly and we’ve been trying SO hard to stop and set boundaries, but I feel like we’ve gone so far so many times that it’s really hard to see the lines clearly now.
We wanted to wait until marriage for sex so badly… and we lost our virginity to each other a couple of months ago… we stopped immediately… it happened again last month, and then last night. I can’t believe it’s gotten to this point and we’re both so discouraged and disappointed.
We both know how wrong it is, but staying completely chaste and pure at his point feels so impossible right now. I love him so much and we have a great friendship and I’m excited to be his wife soon. I feel like this is tainting everything and I’m so frustrated.
I don’t really know what I’m asking other than… has anyone had a similar struggle? Do you have any suggestions for us? We’ve prayed (we could pray more, we will…) and we go to confession every time something like this happens, and seek counsel. Are there any certain prayers or saints, etc… that would be helpful? Any help at all…
Thanks. God bless.