[quote="Lethe, post:16, topic:229202"]
I'm agnostic, and sometimes have been involved in 'queer' culture, and I think the important thing for you is to understand that they are not simply being bad and sinful - the decision to, for example, see a transgender person as the opposite sex is usually more about considering that persons feelings than your own. Theyre trying to be decent people, and you need to see this before you start condemning them.
They may be misled, but they are not necessarily immoral or amoral. Why can you not see them and make it clear that you personally do not approve? You cant make them change their lives for you and they probably wont, but is it any reason to have such a rift in the family?
For example, in my family Im a veggie and basically no one else is. Now, for me this is a moral thing and sometimes it does get me down: it feels like no one else in my family cares about what happens to animals etc, BUT I can still live with them and see them and just avoid the topic.
Unless these people live only for queer rights... :S
I don't know for sure that this is the case (though it seemed to be implied by the OP), but if the situation is that the OP and their immediate family is refusing to acknowledge the preferred gender (and presumably name) of a member of the extended family... I just don't see a way around that. It's hard to live and let live when somebody is consistently refusing to call you by (as you see it) your proper name, or consistently referring to your son as "she."
There may well be some extreme anti-Catholic sentiment in the extended family, but if the situation is as I described, I think they aren't unjustified in that. Refusing to approve of an identity is one thing, but refusing to acknowledge it goes too far, and slams the door on any possibility of communication or reconciliation. How can you productively communicate with somebody who can't even get your name right?