Thanks Amy for your advice… believe it or not, I have read Dr. Kimberly Hahns’ book Life Giving Love and ironically, gave it to my friend to read specifically dealing with this very situation. It also addressed the age issue my friend has. However, I’m pretty certain she hasn’t read it, otherwise I think she’d think differently.
Puzzleannie… some friends talk about alot of situations. And when your husbands’ are military, there is a strong bond between some women and it’s strong enough to talk about alot of details. I’m not interfering with my friends’ marriage just because I have knowledge of an issue she is having a hard time grasping. She’s struggling and all I’m trying to do is help. I know exactly what she needs to do, how, when, why… but what I have a problem with is the priest told her it’s ok. Who is supposed to keep the priest in check by telling him he’s not supporting Church teachings?
I guess I’m underestimating my own relationship with said priest. I can freely talk to him… what I was asking ya’ll was if you thought it was a good idea. Now that I know some of you wouldn’t do it, I really don’t see a reason why I shouldn’t.
And yes, it is my business when a priest is leading his flock to sin. Here I’m trying to help my friend carry this burden of wondering what to do, trying to show her that she’ll be alright, KNOWING she knows the right thing to do and there is a priest giving in to what he thinks she thinks she wants to do without regard to the Church teaching.
Would you tell your friend that is contemplating aborting her and her husband’s baby and she was told by a priest that it’s ok, they’re being prudent as they already have 6 kids… that she’s ok and it’s none of my business and it’s between her and her husband?
I’m sorry if I sound angry… I’m feeling defeated at each turn when I know something needs to be done and I guess I don’t like being told to shut up when I’m seeing something being done that’s immoral.
Thanks for posting though… I appreciate your opinions.