This isn't so much a faith-based question as it is one of manners and courtesy regarding Christmas gifts. Here's my situation:
My BIL gave me an mp3 player for Christmas. He'd bought a car a couple of years ago and the mp3 player came complimentary with the car. BIL already had an mp3 player that he used, and so did his wife, so the one that came with the car just sat in the box for two years. BIL thought of selling it for a few extra bucks, but never got around to it. My mp3 player broke a few months back, and I mentioned that I was thinking of replacing it. So, for Christmas, BIL gave me the extra mp3 player he had. I was grateful that he'd thought of me and that he was trying to help me out. Problem is, the one he gave me has very little memory; I can't keep all of my music on it. I've tried to cut out some of the music that I don't listen to, but I still can't get it to fit on the mp3 player he gave to me, so I'm considering buying a new one when my birthday comes around.
So my question is, if I buy a new one for myself (or ask my husband for it as a birthday present) am I being ungrateful? Spoiled? My husband thinks I am, since it was a gift, but I don't know if I agree. (I can see where he might be able to make that point if BIL had specifically bought the mp3 player for me new.) I asked my mom about it too, and she doesn't think that I'm being ungrateful by buying myself a new one, considering this one isn't very practical for me and the mp3 player was just an extra that was lying around--does that matter? I don't want to do something that will hurt feelings or make BIL think that I don't appreciate his gift. And if I am being ungrateful, I want to change that.
So, any thoughts?