[quote="bobballen_18, post:1, topic:245490"]
I am just wondering, are there many men out there that think God may be calling them to the priesthood, that realize they are a pretty quiet person and not exactly a people person, and still end out being good diocesan priests? I realize that diocesan priests have to be, or at least SHOULD be, pretty good with people and comfortable with talking to "everyone." I think I have such a problem - I am pretty quiet and it takes me awhile to feel comfortable around most people. I am pretty sure that if God is calling me to the priesthood, this would be somewhat of a large obstacle to overcome.
It is kind of bugging me, and I kind of need some encouragement.
I visited my diocesan vocations director, and he discussed the possibility that this fact could mean that I am called to some type of religious life other than a diocesan priest. I realize this may be a possibility, but still, I would like to find out if many current diocesan priests and/or current seminarians have had to overcome this. Any advice?
I hope this comes across as encouragement. Sometimes what I write doesn't say what I mean for it to say. Remember this is one persons opinion.
If you feel called you owe it to yourself to fully explore that calling. You see yourself as quiet, shy. I remember a professor telling me after his first observation of my student teaching, "After the meeting to decide your placement I was worried how you'd handle a class because you came across as quiet."(paraphrased quote) His fears were put to rest upon stepping into that classroom. I share that because roughly 30 years ago I could have written the post that you have.
If God is calling you, your positive attributes will shine through, and you'll learn to handle what you have convinced yourself are weaknesses.
Biggest piece of advice I have after reading parts of "To Save a Thousand Souls" by Father Brett A. Brannen is to find a priest that your vocation director recommends or that you feel comfortable with and have them be your spiritual director. You'll need someone to listen and guide you through the discernment process. I had a somewhat active discernment time of three and a half years while in high school and college. Today I look back and think if I would have had a spiritual director (as recommended by the vocation director at the time) that I would have opened up to back when I was in high school I wouldn't be on catholic.com wondering where I went wrong and am I doing what God called me to do.
Don't make this walk on your own. If you do it on your own you'll always be looking back wondering what you should have done differently (unfortunately I speak from experience.)
If you end up where you are feeling called you will eventually have a spiritual director so make it easier on yourself and take that step now.
My prayers are with you.