Let’s all take a deep breath and remember that our ONE essential vocation is to belong totally to God – Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
People like me – who totally messed up their earlier lives through rejection of God and blatant sin – still have the joy of growing in holiness throughout the remainder of our lives.
This is my vocation, to grow in holiness. This is done on a moment-by-moment basis, day in and day out, 24/7/365.
God’s perfect will for my life may have been marriage, but the circumstances of my childhood and adolescence left me completely unprepared for choosing and living that vocation.
At the age of 48, there’s no going back now. So what? I’ve made a good confession (many, many good confessions, in fact) and have been forgiven. If God wills for me to enter into sacramental marriage now, He’ll lead the way. In the meantime, I just need to keep seeking Him, loving Him, serving Him, living each moment of each day for Him.
Yes, of course some people “miss” their vocation according to God’s perfect will. But that does not put them outside God’s permissive will. And of course, each of us has to choose God’s eternal will for our lives – to know, love, and serve Him in this life, regardless of what our state in life is.
Just my two cents…