"Other means" obviously refers to the act of achieving female orgasm by means other than intercourse. Anything "other" than intercourse must, therefore, suggest manual or oral stimulation - done by either the husband or by the woman alone. (IOW, if he falls asleep after sex and your motor is still running, girls, it's okay to do it.)
is this true??????? 23 years of marriage with me almost always totally 'unfinished' and him snoring away. at times he went straight from kissing (lips to lips, not other places)to intercourse (w/o even touching my breasts or genitals or other) with no thought to pleasing me -- you mean i could have guilt free taken care of myself??? just wondering -- i don't think i would have felt comfortable doing that, but always thought it was wrong since he would not 'be involved' at all. and how empty and lonely would that have been anyhow.
i have read that getting all 'hot and bothered' w/o 'completion' send chemicals throughout the female body, leading to even mental/emotional problems. i wondered if this could have been a contributing factor to my depression -- i mean, as if i needed more that just marriage to a cheating, immoral, narcissist.