I have been working on this one... it's quite difficult for me, but I've been going.:D
Despite my best efforts, I have a regular confessor. It's nerve racking as he is some one I know, he has worked with me on other things outside of reconciliation, he is working the my girls at youth group, so we have a lot of interaction. I pick different times, days, and regardless it is he. Have have resigned myself that this is who God has chosen for me for this sacrament, for the duration. There may be a reason not yet known to me.
Anyway, this last time I went, we went through many things, we had a great discussion, I didn't forget anything I meant to confess, it felt really good to get through that with minimal anxiety for a change... after we talked, he asked if I was sorry, to which I responded to strongly, YES. and then he gave absolution assigned penance.... then warned me to be careful opening the door as I would be swarmed by children. (they were going to get a tour of the reconciliation room as it is first reconciliation coming up this Saturday:thumbsup:). As I sat down in the church, I realized I totally missed my cue to say the act of contrition. That bothers me... I said it there and then... but I can't believe I did that! I feel bad. Normally, he asks if I have an act of contrition I'd like to say. But he didn't this time, and he was obviously too subtle for me, because I wasn't sure at what point I was supposed to say it.
Not sure I'll ever get this right. Do you think this was all valid?