I'm not sure why now, but wanted to get some advice about something that happened awhile ago regarding my now, 17 year old daughter. She was between 6 & 8 years old at the time of the two incidents.
Only a few family members know about this on both sides of the family.
My husband has been battling a persistent brain tumor for the past 9 years, and one day in 2001, after going to pittsburgh with my 3 kids for him to receive radiation therapy, the kids were talking amongst themselves about the scariest thing that ever happened to them. I have two boys and one girl and she's the youngest.
They each told some story about the scariest thing they had happen to them and my daughter divulged her story in which it was about a fondling incident with her grandfather; my father-in-law. I won't go into the details, but this occurred on at least two occasions, the first time was before my husband's health diagnosis when they came to visit us from another state. The second time was when they (her grandparents) came to stay with them to take care of them while my husband went for surgery for the second time.
My husband was told the story first by my son, when this was first told by her to her two older brothers. Then, my husband told me about it and I believed my daughter but my husband had his doubts, but was willing to take her to a psychologist to determine the truthfulness of what she claimed. He also asked advice of his sister and brother, both were disturbed of course and his brother gave him the advice of waiting to see if she developed any problems. We did contact, (my husband) a psychologist and he said that it would be something that if it was determined to be true, would have to be reported to the police. We didn't have her go to the psychologist, I don't really know why, but I feel guilt about this for my daughter's sake. She seems well adjusted, and I've talked to her about this a few years ago, she just said it was just stupid, the way she said it made it seem like she figured a way to put it into some kind of perspective. I still don't know what to do, I could tell you it's scary to think what would happen to him, he's 80 and his wife was diagnosed a year ago with alzheimer's. It would be devastating and destroy them I think, but what about my daughter? maybe it's doing something to her that's unseen? Then my husband has problems from his health that involve complications from his brain tumor that have left him with short term memory problems, vision.....and a whole lot of other things. He couldn't handle this and don't know how I'd keep it from him either. I'm probably a wimp and should just be strong about this whole thing, and either confront him or take my daughter to a psychologist .Thinking about confronting him about it privately and I just feel the anger welling up inside of me. Have any of you had any kind of experiences with this type of thing? and if you can give me any kind of feedback based on this post, I just don't know what to do.