[quote=phatcatholic]but vs. 18 says she was found to be with child while they were betrothed, but ***before ***they came together. vs. 24 says joseph didn’t take mary as his wife until after the dream, after she was found to be pregnant. so, to me this means that they were betrothed, not married, when the angel came to her.
this is important b/c protestants explain her alarm by saying that she didn’t know man b/c she was still in the betrothal period, the time when a couple did not have sex. what would you say to this?
I don’t know if that is correct how you are understanding Matt.1
Now the generation of Christ was in this wise. When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child, of the Holy Ghost. 19 Whereupon Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing publicly to expose her, was minded to put her away privately. 20 But while he thought on these things, behold the angel of the Lord appeared to him in his sleep, saying: Joseph, son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife, for that which is conceived in her, is of the Holy Ghost.
21 And she shall bring forth a son: and thou shalt call his name JESUS. For he shall save his people from their sins. 22 Now all this was done that it might be fulfilled which the Lord spoke by the prophet, saying: 23 Behold a virgin shall be with child, and bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us. 24 And Joseph rising up from sleep, did as the angel of the Lord had commanded him, and took unto him his wife. 25 And he knew her not till she brought forth her firstborn son: and he called his name JESUS.
These words that are underlined seem to suggest that she is already married to him. “took unto him his wife” seems like it suggests that Mary is already his wife. I am not sure what it means “before they came together” though.*