Disclaimer: Please do not turn this thread into a debate about what reasons are “good enough” to use NFP to avoid pregnancy. Thanks!
I have a question for couples who use NFP to avoid pregnancy for the unforeseeable future, especially from those where one spouse desired more children and the other did not.
For a few months now (since my fertility returned after the birth of our son), DH and I have been talking about the idea of child #4. He has been not so sure about it and I am greatly desiring another baby. So, we’ve been using NFP, but not completely following the rules to a “T”. So of course, each month, there is a chance, albeit a small one some months, that I am pregnant. The rollercoaster ride is exhausting, especially for my DH and I’m worried that he’s going to want to “forget this NFP stuff.”
Does this eventually go away? Or every month for the next 20+ years, will I wonder if I am pregnant? Or once you follow the rules rather strictly, does all that uncertainty go away… knowing that anything is possible with God?
I suppose part of my “riding the rollercoaster” each month is because I am hoping for a miracle. I want to be pregnant so badly that I suppose I analyze my chart and count the days and look for any way possible that I could be pregnant. :o
Which leads me to my next question: how have you couples out there come to terms with the fact that one spouse desires more children and the other does not? I just don’t know how DH and I are ever going to get on the same page? (Again, I don’t want to turn this into a debate about whether or not we have reason enough to use NFP to avoid… for the record, I don’t think we do, DH does. :shrug:) It just doesn’t seem fair that his “no” counts more than my “yes”. Does that make sense?
Forgive my rambling… there is a lot of stuff rattling around in my brain and it’s getting late. :yawn:
I appreciate any words of wisdom and especially your prayers.