[quote="Defender23, post:1, topic:209993"]
I have a more personal question, so I hope it is not offensive in any manner. It's not quite about 'sexting,' but something similar.
I joined a Catholic dating website a few months ago in order to try to meet a good Catholic mate. I ended up talking to someone online last night. We were having a nice conversation, and then I just complimented her about being very attractive. We ended up getting more flirty, and we ended up talking about a fantasy in which we were kissing each other. We didn't describe anything more than kissing, but we were talking about passionate things and mentioned we were very aroused and alluded to more physical things. Part way through, I realized that it was not a good thing to be doing, but I didn't feel as if it was mortal sin. (I should note that I did not 'physically act' on any thoughts).
Today, I woke up and I have been worried about the possibility that I might be in mortal sin because of the whole ordeal. I really regret it now and am quite repentant, but I am still unsure as to whether or not I'm in mortal sin. I prayed over it in the morning, and felt as if I was being a bit too scrupulous - that I had sinned, but not entered the realm of mortal sin. But I have still been worried about it all day, off and on.
I am certainly going to confess this the next time I go to Confession, but that won't be until next Saturday. But I would like to determine whether or not I am in the state of mortal sin or whether I'm being too scrupulous - I'd rather not spend the week knowing that I am cut off from God!
Could anyone offer summer advice as to whether I'm in mortal sin or not? Any advice would be sincerely appreciated. Thank you so much and God Bless.
My dear brother, I am amazed at the depths of legalism involved in your understanding of your thought processes, your urgess, your feelings expressed in conversation and your desires all resulting from human sexual attraction. You are beautiful and so is your date. Your sins - that rebellious part of you have been wiped out by Jesus Christ Himself, and it is an insult to Him that you should be in such a quandary about your normality. Relax - let Jesus embrace you and stop worrying. Your view of yourself is probably due to the neurosis inflicted on you by your parents, the 'sick' society we live in and a complete misunderstanding of the bloody death of the Saviour of the world. In times of the Afghanistan war, drug cartels, tsunamis, earthquake tragedies, hunger and disease, inequalities amongst peoples and the exploitation of the poor, do you really believe God is going to smash you to smithereens. Christ Jesus is supreme and pulls us all out of the mire, even those we make ourselves. Your concern about your behaviour proves that you do not wish to offend God and God knows that and the words 'mortal' 'venal' sin do not apply to the amazing grace that God lavishes upon us. We are all being changed and God, the Father, the Potter Himself is involved in this process. He will make you new. He looks at you through His Son and sees only love and purity. Please forgive yourself. It's satan that wants you to squirm over our petty sinfulness and bad habits - God in His Son raises us above the mountain tops and sours like an eagle with us in his claws. God Bless you and keep the Faith!