Hello, I hope this is the right forum for this question. I am in RCIA and looking forward to coming into full communion with Rome this Easter! I do NOT want to be a cafeteria Catholic, and am trying to form my conscience in conformity with the Church as I move through things in my walk. As anyone who saw my first posts in the forums on the question of circumcision should be able to tell, I’m making the effort myself to know and follow ALL the Church’s teachings as much as possible!
My one difficulty seems to be on this issue of contraception of any kind. I was a Protestant before, and so these questions are new to me from a moral theology perspective. My biggest problem is I am married to an agnostic, currently not religious woman. (I know, I know, the whole thing about not being unequally yoked, but there it is). She has been supportive about my conversion, but what to do about this issue? My RCIA Director indicated these are essentially not infallible dogma of the Church, and to talk to my priest, though posts I see on here about it confuse me on that issue…I would be willing to follow NFP, but for my wife at this point, who is not yet interested in Catholicism, this would be right out, and possibly cause a major rift in our marriage which I would not want. Are there conditions, such as preservation of the marriage, where some non-abortive ABC might be permissible in a well formed conscience? I like JPII’s reasoning in the theology of the body, but just can’t see how this could work for me. Should this be something to go to my priest about for guidance?
What is a little funny to me too is that, just even the old method of withdrawal seems still to me to be about as open to life as NFP, since there are, I’m sure, many people walking around today who were conceived…inadvertently shall we say…using this method.
Any guidance would be helpful as this is a difficult issue for someone in my situation, and definite answers as to the level of obligatory observation this carries seem hard to come by. Thanks!