[quote="Irish_Girl_68, post:1, topic:217381"]
CAF friends: I've had other threads on my daughter and her behavior. By the grace of God, she appears to be turning a corner. She has failed a couple of times where boys are concerned and regrets this. She asked me the other day how she will deal with this fact when she meets a "good guy who maybe wants to marry me." She was 14 when she lost her virginity. Admittedly, a tough pill for many men to swallow. I've told her to give it to God, pray to Our Lady and it would take care of itself at the proper time.
I still feel like I failed her in terms of a correct answer. While I didn't tell her this, my own thought is, a man of 30 might better understand, but I question how much any decent man in his late teens/early twenties might accept it (assuming she might meet marriage-appropriate men in college). Any thoughts or advice?
If it were me, I'd tell her to make a vow of staying chaste, and of reclaiming her lost innocence. I realize she can't grow her hymen back, but she can train herself to think and act like the virgin she would like to be. Have her pray especially to Mary. But she shouldn't get too obsessed with this right now, provided she has gone to confession and been absolved. If she truly regrets her loss of virginity, that should keep her safe when the offer of sex comes up again.
Unfortunately, she may regret her early loss of virginity the rest of her life, it's something you can't go back and undo. It's just one of those things we have to bear in life, our mistakes sometimes have very far-reaching consequences that we may not understand at the time. I'm not talking about constant, paralyzing regret, but the heartfelt wish that she had stayed pure for her husband.