Since Im new to this forum, Im not sure where to put this question - or if its even allowed!
my question/situation is this…
I grew up with twin boys. When they were 9yrs old their dad left home for another woman. Later in life they claim that this situation caused lots of confusion in their mental state (Im just repeating what they told me) and was a major factor in their lifestyle as adults (gay men). :rolleyes:
When we were in high school, rumors were that they were gay. They were NOT! They were sort of shy, not aggressive with the girls. Physically they were thin, weak lookin’.
I had other girl friends that wouldve backed up my belief’s in knowing that they were just normal guys! Just ‘out-cast’, that’s all!
After graduation they both enlisted in the Army and went away for 4-6 years.
Both came home from the military as gay men. Both of them!
Why am I bringing this up to this place?
Last week my hairdresser and I were talking about this (my gay twin friends). She questioned the idea of… “born knowing they were different. Just too scared to say anything.” Basically because they are TWINS she felt this way.
I say, NO! They werent gay (still dont believe they are)… And I think its society’s fault for not accepting them as they were/are (by being timid, small, weak types) and the gay community DID accept them.
In their community, they found support, Love, ACCEPTANCE (one of our greatest emotional needs).
Personally, I think one of the twins became involved in this lifestyle, then invited the other. Just my assumption.
My question is this: (which is what my hairdresser and I
do you think that homosexual’s are "born this way’?
do you think that through lifes experiences, that one can choose (not sure if this is the right word - but you know what I mean) this lifestyle and believe they are gay?
**NO gay bashing, please.
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