[quote="StJudePray4Me, post:1, topic:189175"]
I have read with interest a lot of threads regarding annulments.
I have a question. I know someone with a situation from many years ago, who never got an annulment and for that reason,never receives Holy Communion, and basically feels that she doesn't belong to the Church anymore. She is not angry and bitter, just sad and adrift.
Her first husband cheated on her. His other woman became pregnant. He left her for the other woman. They were civilly divorced.
I always got the impression that the lack of annulment was due to lack of money. (She never actually said that, I guess she just hinted at it.) Anyway, after reading things on these boards, I think maybe there was no grounds for a decree of nullity?
According to the church, was she supposed to remain married to this man? She had no control over his leaving her, and even if she did, I doubt she would have wanted to remain with him.
She remarried at a JOP and has never received Communion since.
*The fact that she "re"married is the reason she shouldn't be receiving Communion...she didn't receive a declaration of nullity, and then re''married'' civilly. She is ''still married'' to her first husband, despite what he did. Doesn't matter if her husband cheated, she is not free to remarry, until she receives a declaration that her first marriage wasn't valid. She shouldn't be receiving communion if she is with another man now...but she should sit down with a priest, and discuss her options, and the annulment process. That would be a good start and coming to mass would be the next step. But, if she were say divorced, she could receive Communion, so long as she wasn't involved with another man. Being divorced doesn't preclude one from Communion...only if that person remarries, and hasn't received a declaration of nullity from the first marriage. So she is being very contrite and humble to not receive Communion in the state she is living, since she remarried, civilly. Guessing really doesn't come into play...she should really proceed with the annulment process...it can't hurt. It can only help her in the end...at least then, her marriage now could be validated in a Catholic Church, once she receives a declaration of nullity. (if she does, and we can't guess if she would or wouldn't with the details given here, but it's worth a try!) Prayers for your friend. *