[quote="Young_Thinker, post:10, topic:194488"]
But would I punished if I shaved my own head just before a rite of religious vows or ordination(I mean, do you have to ask for permission to or worry about being reprimanded for cutting your hair or shaving)? It is not like I would be imposing it upon others. I would like to keep a little symbolism even though it was recently taken away in an official sense.
Religious in formation are not punished for having a shave, no. :)
But as Brother David has said, if it was clear that you were doing this because you thought you were better informed on how the rites of the institute should be enacted, then yes, of course you would be asked to explain yourself. And just in case it isn't obvious, if you were to go ahead and do some such thing but in a surreptitious way that meant your superiors might not realise why you had cut your hair in this fashion (which doesn't strike me as very likely), this would be even worse, because it would be an act of deliberate disobedience to the institute's norms, and one that you were not willing to admit to.
You are completely free to ignore my words, because of course I have no influence or authority over you: but in the spirit of being transparent, I would have to say that I think you have a grossly distorted sense of how religious life works (and diocesan priesthood too, which although very different also demands a great deal of discipline and self-denial).
Previously I pointed out to you once that religious don't get to plan their own careers; here I'm saying - along with other people - that religious don't get to organise their own liturgies and formation; and in another thread I note that you were discussing the positions within the church hierarchy to which you'd like to advance (I assume light-heartedly). Also not a good idea.
Religious life is not a candy store into which you go and choose your favourite sweets, or where you can demand that the store owner orders the kind of sweets that you would like. You get what you're given, and if you don't like it, you're in the wrong store. That doesn't mean you'll never get asked about your preferences: it just means that they aren't necessarily taken into consideration when the final decisions are made.
In my own religious life, I've noticed that the less I ask for something specific, the more likely I am to get both what I need, and curiously, what I want as well. God can be trusted. :thumbsup:
I have the feeling that I will be coming across as patronising or aggressive. I apologise unreservedly if that is so. But I think your understanding of the issues is lacking: and even engaging with these subjects in banter is problematic unless you're putting a lot more time into actually doing something about your vocation. Spending hours on the forums enthusing about how great its all going to be in the future isn't the best use of your energy, which is obviously huge. So I'd advise that you put that energy into following providence and avoid making too many plans.