Ok…I just posted a thread the other day asking about going to confession to priests I knew weren’t holy, and got various responses about it. Well, I decided to find a different church, and let me say that the results weren’t much better…
I was going to confess sins of personal purity, and I mentioned to my confessor that my girlfriend and I of almost 2 years, while not sexually active, may have gone too far in our physical relationship (i.e., heavy making out). And instead of offering me words of encouragement or godly advice to stay away from temptation, get this: He tells me that if we are going to be sexually active, we should make sure that she is on birth control, because it’s “the lesser of two evils” (rather than her getting pregnant). Needless to say, I was dumbfounded. I tried explaining myself better, that we weren’t sexually active, but he persisted with the “yeah, but if you ever are…” line, telling me that we should use birth control, even though he “knows what the church teaches about it”.
In terms of sin, using birth control and having premarital sex definitely does not seem like the lesser of two evils. In fact, it seems like the greater of two evils. That our holy fathers, the very men we are supposed to trust and confide in, would give such horrible advice to a teenager in need of spiritual guidance is such a pitiful testament to our times.
Needless to say, I will not be following his advice, but I do sorta feel guilty about not saying more in the confessional. I didn’t challenge him as much as I could have (he was in a hurry to get out of there anyway), and I just sorta let him off with that answer with a nod and an “uh huh”. He did say the words of absolution and give me a penance, so I’m fairly certain that my confession was valid, but still I’m dumbfounded.
Why is it that we don’t seem to have priests that teach the Word of God anymore? I’m a 19-year-old male who would gladly enter the priesthood if the Vatican would allow married priests…but I am not prepared to give up my girlfriend and future wife. I tell you I’d do it in a second just to try to right this quickly sinking ship called the Catholic Church.