For many reasons I would like leave the Episcopal Church and join the Catholic Church. My wife on the other hand is interested, but has many reservations. We have discussed, and have talked with priests and Catholic friends. At the moment one of the walls my wife is struggling with is with sterilization. We are having our third child. If my wife has to give birth by c-section she would like to have her tubes tied.
We do not believe in using birth control pills, but she has no problem with condoms, and sterilization. To her we cannot afford more then 3 children. I agree with her on this. A year ago she did some reading up on various Catholic family planning websites. In her mind there is no difference with condoms, sterilization, and family planning. She thinks each way you are making a conscious choice not to have children, and there is no difference.
My fear is she will get her tubes tied, and down the road at some point we will join the Catholic Church. I fear this will be a problem for her in the future. I do not agree with some of our friends who tell us it is all ok. That you really don’t have to live your life 100% by what the church teaches. That we should just fallow what we feel God is telling us and everything will be fine. I do not agree with this viewpoint.
So my question is how are women received into the Catholic Church who have made permanent decisions when it comes to reproduction? Will this be forever held against her? One friend told us she would never be able to take communion because of choices made before coming into the church. I just don’t know what to think.
Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.