Hello and peace to you all,
I was raised Catholic growing up. When I got to high school and into the military, I became something of an unbeliever or rather an agnostic. I married a lady who was a Baptist. I was not interested in going to Baptist church but after she bugged me to go to church, I compromised by agreeing to go to a PCA (Presbyterian Church). She and I had a child. I believe she started getting something of a mental issue. She left me and my son. She and I got a divorce. I stopped going to church.
A few years later, I married (my current and future wife) a lady who like me was raised Catholic. However she is not interested in religion one bit but she and I do get along very very well. She also is very supporting of me expressing whatever my belief is as this is extremely important to me. I have been very interested in seeking Christ in these last few years. I’ve found I can’t tolerate going to PCA church and started going to Lutheran services. Recently though, I am discouraged that there are too many theological divisions even amongst Lutherans. I am interested in looking more back into Catholicism but it’s been a very long time. There are some doctrines I still have issues with but mostly I can overlook as I tend to believe civil disagreement is ok.
My wife was married before like I was. However, her ex-husband was a severe alcoholic who severely neglected the children and he did leave her. I believe to me (and I agree this only to me and I can’t speak for God) our marriage is valid. I’ve read that if I go back to RC mass, that I cannot partake in the Eucharist and officially am not in good standing. I am conflicted in getting an annulment as I don’t believe it’s necessary. Does not Jesus himself say, (Matt 5:32) “32but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”? I am open to anyone’s explanation why this is still necessary.
I also disagree with the salvation by works but I am in full agreement that without good works (real good works for other humans and not vanity good works) our faith is indeed utterly dead. But, I can live with the cart before the horse or horse before the cart argument as they both mean the same really.
Thanks for reading. I look forward to hearing from you.