Questions about the Priesthood


Hi there! I’ve been discerning my vocation for the past half a year and I have come to the conclusion that God may be calling me to the priesthood. I’m really excited about that, but I have some concerns about whether or not it would be right for me. I’m 15 years old and a sophomore at a Catholic high school. I think God wants me to be a priest, but there are some things in the Church that I just cannot agree with.

Gay marriage: I understand that the Church is against gay marriage, but I have always been told in my house that it is okay for gay people to get married, and I agree with that. I am concerned that my opinion on gay marriage prevents me from becoming a priest because I fear that if I was a priest and had this opinion, I may be defrocked or excommunicated for it.

If there is anybody here who shares my dilemma or who can provide an answer, please give me one! Also, if there are any priests here who can shed some light on this, please do.

Thank you and God bless.


I’m sorry, but you cannot reconcile your belief on sodomite ‘marriage’ with the teachings of the Church. Holding that position not only compromises your entrances into the seminary, but it also compromises your relationship with God.


Well that’s unfortunate.


Your views on gay marriage must be reconciled with the Church and God before seeking seminary education.


What do you mean? Am I supposed to reject my views and obtain a new opinion?




I’d say so.


Easier said than done lol.


You should put your priorities in check. God, or social policy? Church, or state? If you are bullied or persecuted for your views, know that you do it for Jesus Christ. “Blessed are ye when they shall revile you, and persecute you, and speak all that is evil against you, untruly, for my sake” Matt 5:11


Well, I’m not bullied for it. In fact, the majority of my peers share the same view as I. I understand that socially it has become acceptable but what confuses me is that if Protestant churches allow it, why doesn’t the Catholic church? I mean, we both worship the same God. I appreciate your help.


He’s talking about being bullied for accepting the truth. The Catholic Church is different insofar as it holds the TRUTH as revealed to man. It is the Church of Jesus Christ, instituted to lead souls to Heaven. If you’d like to continue to hold heretical beliefs on the union of sodomites, go ahead. That will be between you and God, but the Church will not allow you to shepherd it’s flock if you yourself embrace something that so clearly contradicts God’s law and nature.


I don’t think you’ll have such a hard time over it as you may think, Bagpiper. Just set what you’ve been told and grown up with in your family aside for the time being and do an honest and **biblical ** study of why homosexuality may not be acceptable to God and do research drawing from the Catechism of the Catholic Church to understand the position the Church holds.

Take a step forward in that direction and see what happens. If you still disagree, then you can cross that bridge when you come to it.

God Bless!


Ask yourself: Are you more concerned about what God teaches or just about what your family members and peers think?


The Catholic position has to do with the understanding the Catholic Church has of what marriage is. Marriage is ordered toward what are termed the “goods” of marriage. These “goods” were first taught as such by St. Augustine, but clearly predate his teaching.

They are:

Fidelity - being true to one partner
Permanence - unbreakable bond
Procreation - being open to the possibility that conjugal love could result in children, and if it does accepting them as a gift from God, caring for them, and raising them in the faith

What is termed in secular society as “gay marriage” fails at providing the good of possible procreation - there is never any possibility of a “gay sexual act” resulting in new life.

I would suggest you contact a local priest and discuss the Catholic teaching on marriage and family. Once you have more information, you may find you agree with the church despite what your family has “always told you.” You can bet there are families who have always told their children it is ok to just take what they want from others without asking or without paying. Just because their family has “always told them” this does not make it morally right or a teaching that the Catholic Church should profess.


The Catholic Church teaches the Word of Truth as revealed in the scripture - the very word of God himself. Here is a verse from Leviticus chapters 18:

''You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination."

Sometimes we are taught and have believed incorrect concepts. If this is the case, and when we find out differently, we need to pray and ask God to align our hearts and our beliefs to match his own.

If a person wishes to be a representative of God here on earth, the person must take care that the words he/she speaks are a true representative of God.

The fact that many people and even churches are beginning to accept gay marriage as permissible is a capitulation to pressure and fear of being politically incorrect–putting man before God. It is also a fulfillment of the prophecy in II Timothy chapter 4: ‘’ For the time will come when they will not endure the sound doctrine; but, having itching ears, will heap to themselves teachers after their own lusts; and will turn away their ears from the truth, and turn aside unto fables.’’

I wish you all the best and I pray for the decision you need to make.


Thank you all.


Well, lemme try this instead… Why do you think the Church rejects gay marriage?


The church rejects it because it does not produce children, for one thing.


Asking people on here will never be enlightening. The Pope said ‘who am I to judge’ ask your confessor. You didn’t say that you wanted to preside at a gay wedding did you. Who are we to judge who God calls


Thank you. Finally. I totally agree with that.

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