I am 33 yr old male, an served in the Army from 97-2000
Dropped outa college but am returning this summer to try and finish, as part of my discernment process, being that I feel that if i can finish college , i should be mature enough to consider myself ready to enter into some kind of vocation process.
I wonder though with personal problems that I have, should it make me reconsider a religious life..
I am working on over coming pornography, and have been successful in some areas and lacking in others, so I am hopeful on this, I have personal family problems that i deal with constantly and it worries me, that if i can not be patient with my own family members how can I be patient with others ?
And I pray for help, infact part of my problem i had today was having a big arguement with my mother, and this was about an hour or so after i had prayed the rosary for help on such an issue, and im thinking what in the world is wrong with me !
My pop is a great help, in issues i have with my mom, and i have handled other situations on my own before,, and im starting to wonder the following...
who does a priest , or brother turn to when they are stressed out ?
Praying for help is very beneficial and meditation and reflection as well, but i mean if these men are getting stressed out for what ever reason, is it okay for them to turn to immediate family for help ? Do they talk to their Bishop ? Do they seek a therapist ?
What if a priest or brother doesnt get along with another priest or brother that they have to work with ?
What problems does a priest encounter ?
And let me clairify, when I joined the Army, I heard horror stories, and i figured they were just that, stories to scare me out of joining, the truth was it was nothing like anyone told me, mainly because it was from people who had retired long ago and times have changed, so in some aspects it was alot worse than what they remembered.
I had no way to prepare for the hardships of joining the Army, one can be physically prepared, but I have been out of service for 10 yrs, I could in theory get in better shape and rejoin before i turn 40 to the Army, and I know things will be drastically different.
But I would be better able to handle certain situations ( I think , at least ones i faced as a teenager )
So what challenges does one face in a religious life as a priest or brother ?
what do you do if you have pushy congregation members who think the church should be doing x,y,and z ? I have heard growing up things like oh well Father so n so is only saying this and doing that because he doesnt want to lose donations to his church....
Do priests worry about things like this ?
Or how about this for a real example i see in the church i attened, we have a contemporary choir that plays every other Sunday evening at mass,
and they must think no one watches them or listens to them, because if you go there early before mass to pray in silence, forget it, they are loud, and the church echos,
and i mean they are not monsters just doing what ever, but you would think they would exercise some common sense, and not start strumming out what ever they please on an eletric guitar in between practicing for the songs for the evening, or start doing a drum solo as if it is a rock concert, or laughing loudly and cutting up. both of which has happened and sometimes still does.....
any thoughts i would appreciate.