Dear all on the CAF,
I’ve been puzzling over this question for some weeks now, and I’m not sure what the answer is, so I’m in need of help.
My best friend is a lapsed Catholic. He stopped attending Mass a few years ago, but he has been attending a Protestant church since then, and plans to have a non-Catholic ceremony with myself as his best man. He has not made any formal act of defection/apostasy, nor does he have any desire to do so. However, the Church changed the rule in 2010 so that formal defection no longer releases one from the merely ecclesiastical laws of the Church. He is also unwilling to get a dispensation from the bishop in order to get married in a Protestant ceremony.
While I cannot be his best man, I’m not confused about whether I can even attend at all. I’m seriously considering not attending at all, since the marriage will be invalid, and I feel that my presence would cause scandal.
Would I be correct in not attending?