I’m about to take a new job that will require me to move. This move will, however, grant us access to the TLM (something we’ve been praying for for a long time). As a whole, we’re very excited.
At the same time, after much thought and even more prayer, I’ve come to the conclusion that God is calling me to a third order. After doing my regular homework on the various orders and examining myself, my general feeling is that I relate best to the Dominicans.
There are four orders that would be available where we’re going: Carmelites, Dominicans, Benedictines, and a second Benedictine monastery that’s run by SSPX.
I really don’t think I’d fit in as a Carmelite.
I’ve written to and spoken with the others, and they were all inviting. The Dominicans, however, didn’t seem very … Dominican. Their idea of “study” doesn’t match mine (granted, I’m an academic, and not everyone is or can be), they aren’t interested in the TLM (whereas we’d rather attend the TLM and would go far out of our way to do so), they don’t seem to be very informed regarding Church matters, etc, etc.
Although the Benedictines have been very kind, it seems like my best fit would be with a more “conservative” or “traditional” Dominican group.
I know you can become an “independent” member of the third order, but you miss out on everything that happens in community and spiritual direction becomes much more difficult.
Any suggestions would be very much appreciated.